Why I Quit Saying “This might be TMI” And You Should Too

There’s a rule with my coaching clients in the To Pregnancy & Beyond program that we don’t preface anything we might say with, “This might be TMI, but….”.

Nope. Nope. Nope.

I get it. It can be total habit. You don’t even realize you’re saying it.

In so many scenarios, we’re taught to keep our bodies secret and anything we’re experiencing about them in the closet.

Except perhaps if our body is getting smaller, that’s allowed, encouraged, and celebrated. 

But, anything ‘personal’ or intimate? Put it away. Or, if you do talk about it, make it clear that it’s not something that you should be comfortable talking about and preface it with TMI (= too much information).

Our ‘zero TMI rule’, includes any conversations about:

• Your body (I could stop the list here…)

• Your vulva, vagina, anus, insert word to describe genitals here

• Peeing, pooping and the related

• Pelvic health issues, incontinence, pelvic organ prolapse

• Ovulating, menstrual cycles, periods, bleeding

• Sex, pain with intercourse, vaginal penetration, anal sex, intimacy, self-pleasure, masturbation

• Relationships, marriage, partners

• Anything happening in your life

• Literally, anything. Ever.

You get the point. These conversations need to get more normal.

Because they ARE normal. 

When I listen to people talking about things that are happening with their body, especially during and after pregnancy, the common thread is, “No one told me this! I didn’t know this could even happen.”

That has not been my reality, at all. Because I have these ‘sensitive’ (aka. real) conversations. Everyday. With multiple women.

Stop keeping your life and your body quiet. 

For me, for you, and for the daughter I’m raising. I need her to know that these conversations about her body, her pelvic and sexual health are important and normal and that she will hear other people have them, too.

Simple example: how is it possible that so many of us still don’t understand the inner workings of our menstrual cycles when we’ve been doing it YEARS? Literally, decades of it and we barely know if or when we’re ovulating?

(By the way, I’m with you. Only in the last few years have I started to figure my body out for myself after 10+ years on birth control pills.)

100% safe space. 

In our private coaching group for my To Pregnancy & Beyond mamas, anything goes. It’s extremely important to me that they are always know they can talk about all the things and be met with support and care.

The reality is that these things we’re experiencing are common and we won’t be able to make them perceived as such if we don’t start talking about them more.

So, I’d encourage you to stop prefacing anything that you are about to say regarding your body with “this might be TMI, but…”. Just say what you need to say. Yes?

Jess

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